“When you are connected to other strong women who complement, understand, and care about you, you will feel nurtured, empowered, inspired, and fired up!”
– Vickie Milazzo
Yes, You Can (and Here’s Why): 10 Feminine Forces You Already Have – and How They Can Change Your Life
Author and entrepreneur Vickie Milazzo says all women have what it takes not only to survive, but to thrive in these tough times. She explains how you can unleash the power of the 10 Feminine Forces and achieve wicked success despite the bad economy. Vickie is the author of Wicked Success Is Inside Every Woman (Wiley, ISBN: 978-1-1181-0052-3, $21.95, WickedSuccess.com)
HOUSTON, October 15, 2011 – There’s no denying how difficult it is to feel secure in this unrelenting recession. These are scary, unpredictable times. If only there were a fairy godmother who could show up and “take care” of us, Cinderella-style. But as you know all too well, this is the real world, and there’s no magic bullet solution that will guarantee the “security” you crave. If you want your life to change, it’s all on you. And that’s great news. The even better news? Vickie Milazzo says you already possess the winning skill set needed to be successful in this environment. In fact, the necessary strengths come very naturally to you. Leverage them the right way and you can start achieving wicked success!
“Women share 10 extraordinary strengths – fire, intuitive vision, engagement, agility, genius, integrity, endurance, enterprise, renewal, and fusion,” says Milazzo, author of the New York Times bestseller Wicked Success Is Inside Every Woman (Wiley, ISBN: 978-1-1181-0052-3, $21.95, WickedSuccess.com). “I call these the 10 Feminine Forces. With the right focus and commitment, it’s possible to harness each of them.”
Milazzo encourages women to take control of their futures because that’s what she did. In 1982 she faced the reality that she was unhappy with the direction her life had taken. She was a registered nurse with a bachelor’s and master’s degree. But after six short years of hospital experience, Vickie felt like she was in a dead-end job. Plus, she was going to have to work overtime for the rest of her life to pay her mortgage. And she knew she was too mouthy and opinionated to work for an institution. She still wanted to be a nurse, but on her own terms. Today she is the founder and CEO of a multi-million dollar company. Along the way to her success, she discovered the phenomenal power of the 10 Feminine Forces.
“Sure men exhibit many of these strengths too,” says Milazzo. “But I call them the
Feminine Forces because I’ve noticed that women synthesize them into a potent energy that is distinctly female. That’s something that we all need to recognize, learn about, and use to our advantage! The courage to commit is easily within the grasp of every woman on this planet, including you.”
Read on to learn more about the 10 Feminine Forces and how you can start tapping into their power:
1. Fire. Passion is in every woman – we tend to feel our emotions deeply. We cry hard. We laugh hard. We love hard. And whether she can identify it or not, there’s something that every woman is passionate about, that fires her up, and that drives her to succeed.
“When you find the passion that drives you – whether it’s family, serving others in the medical field, using the law to help others, or reforming a broken aspect of your community, you’ll have tapped into a fuel source that won’t run dry in the middle of the race,” says Milazzo. “That doesn’t mean that the going will always be easy…but passion will make your life richer.”
2. Intuitive Vision. Believe it or not, science has shown that women’s cognitive brains are more holistic and generalized than men’s because the left and right hemispheres are more broadly connected. That means that “women’s intuition” isn’t entirely a myth – we really do experience and process the world differently.
“Learn to tap into your intuitive intelligence,” advises Milazzo. “Then learn to interpret, trust, and act on those feelings as you navigate the chaos of life and career.”
3. Engagement. Women are the tycoons of commitment. All women are CEOs, i.e. Chief Everything Officers, managing career, household, children, meals, shopping and event planning. This natural “edge” of engagement is a huge asset when connected to what fires us up because it allows us to engage on a grand scale and helps us to tough out the rough patches.
“Train yourself to engage (and overcome) your fears, to engage your goals strategically, to engage the not-so-fun-but-necessary details, and to carefully evaluate the goals you do (and choose not to) engage,” says Milazzo. “This will give you the ongoing momentum you need to live your passionate vision.”
4. Agility. Women are wired for agility. We’re natural multitaskers and adapters, and the need to be flexible doesn’t faze us. That works to our advantage when it becomes necessary to change the plan, go to a different incarnation of the plan, or scrap the plan altogether.
“If you really want your agility to work for you, you can’t just wait for life to give you no choice but to change,” explains Milazzo. “You’ve got to push yourself consistently farther outside your comfort zone, actively challenge your fixed viewpoints, and expose yourself to new situations – all while keeping your eye on your ultimate goal and making sure that the life you’re working toward is still the life that’s best for you.”
5. Genius. Sure, many women stand out individually as geniuses in the classic IQ sense of the word. In a broader sense, though, every woman possesses genius because we are natural collaborators. Instead of being instinctively driven to solve problems in isolation, we seek out the perspectives, advice, and ideas of others – a sort of collective genius.
“As you pursue your vision, ask for and take advantage of help whenever you can, and also remember that women’s collective genius is a two-way street,” advises Milazzo. “Look for opportunities to give aid and to help others leverage their own talents.”
6. Integrity. This is a strength that women and men alike possess. That’s because integrity isn’t something that’s wired more heavily into one sex or the other. It’s a choice that we can all make for ourselves every day of our lives.
“Whenever you are faced with a decision, opportunity, or dilemma, put the right thing first (and be willing to invest time in determining what the right thing actually is, since life is rarely black-and-white),” says Milazzo. “Your ongoing integrity determines whether you ultimately succeed or fail, and makes the joy you feel when you experience a win authentic and lasting.”
7. Endurance. Here’s the thing about achieving your most passionate goals: it won’t be easy. Somewhere along the line – maybe for a long time – you’ll need to draw on “true grit strength,” a feminine force that can push women through anything from childbirth to years of night school on top of full workweeks. Remember that even the toughest women must pace themselves.
“Take a rest when you need it, and try to build small incremental payoffs into your journey toward your overarching goal,” advises Milazzo. “And remember that achieving wicked success is like getting into physical shape: you’re going to be sore and you’re going to want to quit, but that pain and discomfort are making you stronger and propelling you forward.”
8. Enterprise. You may not realize it, but if you are successfully maintaining any combination of a job, education, family, household, friendships, hobbies, etc., then you are running a complex enterprise. And there’s no reason why you can’t channel that ability to keep multiple systems running and multiple people happy while achieving wicked success.
“Run your life like a business,” says Milazzo. “Be deliberate about determining what sort of payoffs you’re looking for and what channels will allow you to achieve them. Write out a strategic plan for your life that you can refer to each day. Remember, you are looking to control your life’s course – not to let other people, finances, obstacles, etc. control it for you. But don’t forget that, in order to receive your payoff, you’ll have to offer something that others want and need!”
9. Renewal. If you’re giving your all to your career, to your friends, to your family, to your church, and to keeping your house habitable, it’s no wonder you’re exhausted and have nothing left to give to your passionate vision. Plan – in advance – to renew your body, feelings, mind, and spirit, whether that’s scheduling a massage or blocking off a few minutes to read motivational material before starting your workday.
“Don’t forget that only you can determine if your life is balanced (or not), so be proactive in replenishing yourself so that your fire isn’t extinguished,” notes Milazzo. “And constantly seek out new ways to achieve renewal, too!”
10. Fusion. Have you ever gotten together with female friends, relatives, or colleagues and come away spinning with energy, motivation, and ideas? That’s the power of female fusion: when women bond over a shared interest, task, or goal, they create sparks of insight and brilliance they could never have generated alone.
“Without discounting the special bond that women can have with men, the fact is, we also need to fuse with other women in order to maximize our female potential,” says Milazzo. “When you are connected to other strong women who complement, understand, and care about you, you will feel nurtured, empowered, inspired, and fired up!”
“Ultimately, the 10 Feminine Forces helped me to realize success on my own terms,” Milazzo concludes. “They helped me to focus my goals, plan my steps forward, and they even helped me to boost the confidence I had in myself. They also guided me during the toughest economic recession in my lifetime. Women can summon these 10 strengths to achieve exaggerated, uncommon, wicked success”
About the Book:
The New York Times bestseller Wicked Success Is Inside Every Woman (Wiley, ISBN: 978-1-1181-0052-3, $21.95) is available at bookstores nationwide and from major online booksellers.