How Can It Be Lonely At the Top If We’re All There Together?

Yesterday, a Certified Legal Nurse Consultant shared that she was afraid to take her CLNC® business to the next level because she didn’t want to create jealousy among her legal nurse consulting colleagues. This strong woman is afraid it will be lonely at the top. My response: “It sure can’t be any lonelier at the top than it is at the bottom. At least at the top you can afford good wine for your friends and you never have to put your holiday shopping on layaway at the dollar store.”

Why deprive yourself of CLNC® success out of peer pressure or worse, out of fear that you’ll be lonely? Reality alert: if you’re going to be lonely, you’re going to be lonely whether or not you’re successful.

I left New Orleans when I was 18, but I’m still a Louisiana gal at heart and the critics who thrive best at the level of mediocrity are just like the Louisiana blue crabs I still love to devour. The crabs at the bottom of the bucket may be heading for the pot of boiling hot water, but they’re going to pull back any crab that tries to climb out and escape. Critics of your CLNC® success will always be happiest not only when they’re at the bottom, but when they’ve effectively pulled you down with them.

Don’t let yourself be dragged into underperforming by a pool of underperformers. Loneliness has nothing to do with being rich or successful. This is one of those false-isms that was created by less successful people to justify why they’re still mucking around at the bottom. In the words of the singer Diane Birch, “If it’s happiness you want, that’s what you’ll get. You’ve gotta rise up little sister. Turn on the light. Wise up to the stories you’ve been told.”

Go ahead. Rise up and succeed all you want. Trust me, it’s worth it. And after all, how can it be lonely at the top if we’re all there together? Please join me to celebrate and together we’ll crack open a great bottle of wine.

I’m just sayin’

P.S. Comment here and share how you rise up when it gets tough.

4 thoughts on “How Can It Be Lonely At the Top If We’re All There Together?

  1. Thanks, Vickie, for the encouragement in this blog. I recently submitted a CLNC® Mentoring Request and this blog encourages me to continue even more.

  2. I have found that nothing worthwhile comes particularly easily. I think we keep encountering crossroads in life and it is most helpful to trust one’s heart, not the doubters on the outside. It is really none of their business; they are not the ones who have to live with the results of a road not taken. Obstacles do arise but can also be catalysts.

    It took me four months to complete the CLNC® Online Certification Program; I was working six days a week at two part-time jobs and was mostly exhausted. Days after passing the CLNC® Certification Exam I fell and broke my wrist. Huh. Now I can’t do either job for a couple of months, but NOW I also have the time and focus to get ready for my new career. I can type with one hand, burnish my resume, research potential attorney-clients, get into online medical research, etc. It’s as if the universe conspired to help me clear obstacles. I am grateful for this “tough break!”

  3. Vickie, you mentioned that this CLNC® consultant was afraid to take her business to the next level because it may cause jealousy amongst her CLNC® colleagues…
    I say if her colleagues are her friends, then who needs enemies? Fears of this type are unmitigated social pressures created in our own minds. It is like you said in your seminar, “You have to change your mind-set as a nurse in order to run this as a business.” Your VIP course taught us how to conduct ourselves as a business person and learn to run it successfully. Good luck to this CLNC® consultant who needs to set her own pace and take it to the next level!

  4. I admit, I am still in the dream stage. I am just beginning my climb out of the bucket, and I do feel shy about being too excited with my peers. Partly because I don’t want to appear that I think I could make it while they are still in the same world I’m trying to leave. I have to let that go. It is too heavy to try to climb that wall with extra weight. I have enough of that on my own.

    Vickie – even if I don’t make it (which I will), I can’t regret one minute of this journey. Thank you for opening this door.

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