If Your Brain Doesn’t Remember Failure, Why Should You as a Certified Legal Nurse Consultant?

When I first started my legal nurse consulting business in 1982, I was nervous about contacting attorneys and marketing to them. The single most important thing that helped me overcome my fear, was remembering who I was – an RN. You know my mantra, “We Are Nurses and We Can Do Anything!®” If we can make split second decisions that are the difference between life and death, we can do something as easy as talk to an attorney. We learned early on as nurses that doctors are not to be feared and we learned to talk (back) to them. Well, attorneys are the same. They put their super-suits on just like everyone else, one leg at a time. Talk with them; they’re fun. They have great senses of humor and they love life. Some of the most fun people I’ve met in my life are attorneys.

As I grew my legal nurse consulting business I focused on my strengths and successes, not my weaknesses and mistakes. I could write the book on just the mistakes I’ve personally made. Maybe you can too. Now though, there’s hard evidence that it’s our successes that have the most impact on the brain. If you do something the right way, the brain remembers how you did it.

In fact, the study suggests that failure has no impact on helping us to succeed. That’s because if you do something wrong, the brain doesn’t know how to process and store it. Since we absorb more from success than failure, this might explain why successful people learn more from their experiences and continue to succeed often while people who fail learn less from experience and continue to fail often. Think about the people around you. We all know someone who keeps making the same mistakes, in love, at work or in business – it’s because they’re not learning from their failures (unless there is a strong negative association with it such as pain, embarrassment or electrical shock). They fail to learn like they would from a success.

Keep succeeding and stay focused on your past successes. I’ve always said that reliving your past successes will fuel your future success and now research has proven me right.

If your brain doesn’t know how to process your failures, why should you bother? I say you shouldn’t.

Success Is Inside – and it’s repeatable!

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One thought on “If Your Brain Doesn’t Remember Failure, Why Should You as a Certified Legal Nurse Consultant?

  1. Perhaps it’s the brain part I’m missing?

    This is a great post Vickie! I was just reading something about how we process information and thoughts that will make us feel better (when we are feeling down). It’s called the “George Bailey Effect.” (George Bailey is the character in the movie It’s a Wonderful Life, you know, about the guy who is shown what life would be like if he were never born. I watch it every Christmas).

    Well, turns out that when we focus on things that we have achieved, we begin to feel better. The brain finds pleasure in knowing that “If I weren’t here…this wouldn’t have happened.”

    One way to work on being grateful is to list things in your life that you take for granted and think about what your life would be like without them (what researcher Robert Emmons calls “the George Bailey effect.”

    I can’t imagine not being a Certified Legal Nurse Consultant. I just can’t imagine it. It may not be monumental to anyone else, but I know there are people’s lives I have touched with nursing just in reviewing a medical record. I actually think there are changes that have been made in some small way because there are several CLNC® consultants now who really do make a difference in the courts, in the profession and those things simply wouldn’t be if CLNC® consultants hadn’t stepped up to the plate and helped one another.

    You are “contagious” and your words are so easy to remember because they are encouraging.

    So, I don’t know if it’s necessarily “doing things the right way” that makes me remember your words, but I do know that your words are encouraging, make me feel better and also remind me that things would be so much different in my life had I never met you. Hopefully, other Certified Legal Nurse Consultants are able to see that same characteristic in the work they do and note that had they never known about legal nurse consulting, a particular wonderful event would never have happened.

    Whether you knew it or not when you wrote the blog, your observation is firmly supported in most recent research. How cool is that?

    Good thoughts. Thank you.

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