Tom’s Tech Tip: Do Something Special for Your Spouse – Today (or for Valentine’s Day)!
After 23 years of marriage it’s more challenging to come up with something special for my spouse. By special I mean that wow experience – the one that takes her breath away and gets me one or two husband points. Special is going above and beyond fixing the display on her dual monitors, debugging her Outlook installation or setting up a darknet so she can communicate with other CEOs about issues and topics well above my pay grade.
So today’s Tech Tip is not techy at all. It’s more just a pre-Valentine’s Day life tip and any Certified Legal Nurse Consultant reading this might want to print two copies and place one in your spouse’s lunch box and the other in your own.
Every day when you wake up, take a moment and find something that you can do for your significant other that’s just a bit out of the ordinary. Today it could be slipping a note into her purse reminding her how much you love her. Tomorrow it could be a card, bringing him a cup of healthy green tea in bed or arranging a special event.
Special doesn’t have to cost much, if it costs anything at all. Sometimes special is just making your spouse laugh like you laughed together when you were dating. It might be taking the kiddos out for the day and running her a candle-lit bubble bath before you leave. It might even be cleaning the garage, meeting him for a surprise lunch or smuggling a bag of her favorite potato chips into a movie. What’s special about special is that it’s different for each person.
My favorite extravagant special was taking Vickie to see the Dalai Lama and then afterwards to a private reception where we met her favorite movie star (guess who?). That special turned out to be a perfect day and a perfect evening and will be a forever special, or as we call them a lifer. An example of a smaller special was yesterday when, without persistent repetitive encouragement, I touched up some scratched paint on a cabinet that had been bugging Vickie (I still think she was the only one that could see it). Special is sometimes just doing something without being asked and without asking for a song and dance for doing it.
With Valentine’s Day coming, find your own versions of special – you probably already know what it is (and may have been putting it off). If you don’t, start thinking, think hard and think outside the box. To paraphrase a simple but wise man, “Special is as special does.” Why not get started on it?
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Hi Tom,
I had the pleasure of meeting you yesterday evening as my wife, Dawn Reynolds is attending the CLNC® Certification Program at the O’Hare Renaissance in Chicago. It was so nice to talk “tech” with you for a few minutes. It’s interesting as it appears we have very similar roles in our wives’ lives/careers. I’m her “tech” support/love and emotional support/cheerleader and business partner… lol!
I agree whole heartedly with you though. I hope the other guys and ladies out there that are filling these similar roles in their spouse/Certified Legal Nurse Consultant’s lives remember that they are husbands and wives before they are business partners. Remember to take a moment or two every day to remind her or him that they are special far beyond the business relationship. A little extra effort can make your Certified Legal Nurse Consultant’s day FAR better by leaps and bounds by just bringing her coffee and rubbing her shoulders as she sits at her computer and clicks away researching that next case. These simple tasks communicate love and care… especially if you notice your CLNC® consultant is having a particularly difficult day. I know Dawn loves it when I send her a link to a special song that reminds me of her that I found on YouTube. It’s free to do and only takes a few moments plus… AS you mentioned… “husband points”!! They do have a lot of value in our household! Even an “I Love You” on a post-it note can make a bad day better.
So… do something… anything… Let him or her know they are loved and have a FAR greater importance to you than just being your business partner. This is a GREAT opportunity for spouses and significant others to further strengthen their relationships by having that rare opportunity of not only sharing your life as a couple but being able to work together in your business venture as well.
I know my wife and I are so excited to have this opportunity. I know I’ll do my best every day to let her know that she’s very special and that I’m very proud to be married to my RN/CLNC! Although I maintain my own job for now, we hope we can do this together every day sometime in the future much like you and Vickie.
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Keep on Techin’,
Hi Tom,
I had the pleasure of meeting you yesterday evening as my wife, Dawn Reynolds is attending the CLNC® Certification Program at the O’Hare Renaissance in Chicago. It was so nice to talk “tech” with you for a few minutes. It’s interesting as it appears we have very similar roles in our wives’ lives/careers. I’m her “tech” support/love and emotional support/cheerleader and business partner… lol!
I agree whole heartedly with you though. I hope the other guys and ladies out there that are filling these similar roles in their spouse/Certified Legal Nurse Consultant’s lives remember that they are husbands and wives before they are business partners. Remember to take a moment or two every day to remind her or him that they are special far beyond the business relationship. A little extra effort can make your Certified Legal Nurse Consultant’s day FAR better by leaps and bounds by just bringing her coffee and rubbing her shoulders as she sits at her computer and clicks away researching that next case. These simple tasks communicate love and care… especially if you notice your CLNC® consultant is having a particularly difficult day. I know Dawn loves it when I send her a link to a special song that reminds me of her that I found on YouTube. It’s free to do and only takes a few moments plus… AS you mentioned… “husband points”!! They do have a lot of value in our household! Even an “I Love You” on a post-it note can make a bad day better.
So… do something… anything… Let him or her know they are loved and have a FAR greater importance to you than just being your business partner. This is a GREAT opportunity for spouses and significant others to further strengthen their relationships by having that rare opportunity of not only sharing your life as a couple but being able to work together in your business venture as well.
I know my wife and I are so excited to have this opportunity. I know I’ll do my best every day to let her know that she’s very special and that I’m very proud to be married to my RN/CLNC! Although I maintain my own job for now, we hope we can do this together every day sometime in the future much like you and Vickie.
Have a great day everyone!